What gets a woman’s attention?

In
one word, kindness. You’ve all heard the joke about who is the
sexiest man? The one loading the dishwasher!

In ad after ad from lots of men we read, “looking for sex, no strings
attached.” That might be what men want but is it reasonable?
Is there such a thing as a sexual relationship with no strings at all?
I’m not talking financial or romantic commitment or anything like that.
I’m talking about emotional attachment. Women *like* to care about men.
So to say no strings attached to many women means, “don’t care about
me.” What’s a caring woman to do then? She’ll probably move
past your ad to someone else’s.

When I first started in the dating site business years ago, I spent lots
of time in the chatrooms to build the membership. I got to know quite a
few people in there and got close to many women. From my fly on
the wall perspective I noticed time after time the men who were kind and
sincerely interested in what the women did during the day were the men
the women were choosing to “go private” to discuss whatever people do
when they talk alone. Even online, the women were selecting men
who they could care about and who appeared to care about them.

To those who assume that SexyAds is a sex site and that you should be
able to talk dirty to everyone you meet, I think you’re wrong. The women
on SexyAds are normal women you’d meet anywhere. The only difference is
they have made the decision that sex is going to be an important part of
their next relationship - regardless whether it’s for one night or a
lifetime.