In
one word, kindness. You’ve all heard the joke about who is the
sexiest man? The one loading the dishwasher!

In ad after ad from lots of men we read, “looking for sex, no strings
attached.” That might be what men want but is it reasonable?
Is there such a thing as a sexual relationship with no strings at all?
I’m not talking financial or romantic commitment or anything like that.
I’m talking about emotional attachment. Women *like* to care about men.
So to say no strings attached to many women means, “don’t care about
me.” What’s a caring woman to do then? She’ll probably move
past your ad to someone else’s.

When I first started in the dating site business years ago, I spent lots
of time in the chatrooms to build the membership. I got to know quite a
few people in there and got close to many women. From my fly on
the wall perspective I noticed time after time the men who were kind and
sincerely interested in what the women did during the day were the men
the women were choosing to “go private” to discuss whatever people do
when they talk alone. Even online, the women were selecting men
who they could care about and who appeared to care about them.

To those who assume that SexyAds is a sex site and that you should be
able to talk dirty to everyone you meet, I think you’re wrong. The women
on SexyAds are normal women you’d meet anywhere. The only difference is
they have made the decision that sex is going to be an important part of
their next relationship - regardless whether it’s for one night or a
lifetime.

Another gem of a blog from Rodjc69
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Orgasms are a
dime a dozen. Especially if they are achieved the same way, over and
over again. This might be from having the same partner for a long time,
or it might be just how you give it to yourself.

None
of that is bad; it certainly hasn’t stopped me from giving certain areas
of my body extra attention in the shower. But what brings sex, and
orgasm, to the highest level… the best you will ever have, is to also
have that emotional connection along with the physical connection.

Often, this is simply achieved by the newness of a relationship. The
first time is always that much more exciting. Sometimes you might be
trying out new things… again, something for the first time that brings
the relationship to another level.

Maybe
it is simply just extra romantic… like you are finally not just having
sex in bed before rolling over to go to sleep, rather, you are away from
kids/family/work (whatever the norm is) and you are out on the beach at
night, on a vacation, after having some ice cream and taking a long
walk. Then you sit down in the sand and chat for hours before the
conversation turns hot and you start ripping each others clothes off.

My point is that the emotional connection in addition to the physical
raises the quality of sex for men just as much as it does for women. If
you want that, you will have to seek it out.